I am very grateful to my good friend Angie who gave me a copy of this book to read.  Joyce Meyer is not an author I read much, but this one came in a timely moment.  I knew it was something I needed to read as soon as she suggested it.  If you haven’t read it I encourage you to.  It is a very short book which can be used as a devotional of sorts.  If you have read it or want to discuss the quotes, feel free to comment.  Just keep it positive.  I am now finished reading the book so no more notes or quotes will be added.  Enjoy!

All quotes come from Joyce Meyer’s book “The Approval Fix: How to Break Free from People Pleasing” published by FaithWords: Hatchette Book Group.  Copyright 2014 Joyce Meyer – All rights reserved   ISBN: 978-1-4555-4715-9

Order a copy of the book at Joyce Meyer’s website – https://www.joycemeyer.org/ProductDetail.aspx?id=6PRM12000010060

“The first step to understanding and breaking free from approval addiction is to understand fear, because fear of some sort is at the root of an unbalanced need for approval.” pg 5 Chapter 1 “God Loves You”

“If our job were to achieve, we would be called achievers, not believers. We often want to emphasize what we do, but our focus should be on what God has done for us in Jesus Christ. We have a choice: we can concentrate on our sin and be miserable, or we can concentrate on God’s forgiveness and mercy and be happy.” pg 6-7 Chapter 1 “God Loves You”

“We must learn to trust His Word more than our own feelings. We often bow down to our feelings without realizing how fickle and unreliable they are.” pg 8 Chapter 1 “God Loves You”

“Many times in our lives, the circumstances we face or the decisions we make cause us to feel we have been dropped, crushed, or ground into the dirt. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, we will never lose our value in God’s eyes. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, we are still priceless to Him.” pg 16 Chapter 2 “You are Valued”

“Give God not only what you are but especially give Him what you are not. Don’t hold anything back; give Him everything! Offering God our strengths is easy, but we should also offer Him our weaknesses, because His strength is made perfect in our weakness. The Lord doesn’t see only what we are right now, He sees what we can become if He is parent with us. He knows the plans He has for us, and they are plans for progress and success, not for defeat and failure (see Jeremiah 29:11).” pg 23 chapter 4 “God is on Your Side”

“But because you have been made right with God, you can stop comparing yourself to others and competing with them. Your acceptance is not found in being like someone else but in being who you are through faith in Jesus Christ. Don’t find someone who seems to have it all together and then try your best to be like they are. Be the best “you” that you can be!” Pg 30-31 Chapter 5 “You’ll Become What You Believe”

“The world may say you need to be like this person or that person, but God’s will is for you to be yourself.” Pg 31-32 Chapter 5 “You’ll Become What You Believe”

“When someone turns on a light in a dark room, we can see the dirt in it. God is light (1 John 1:5) and when His light begins to shine in our lives, it exposes things (see 1 Corinthians 4:5). When He gets involved in our lives, He begins to show us things we may prefer not to look at, things we have kept secret. even from ourselves. We are frequently deceived, especially about ourselves.” Pg 54 Chapter 9 “Turn the Light On”

“We cannot always please people if we want to please God, but He will give us favor with the people with whom He truly desires us to be in relationship.” pg 61 Chapter 10 “You Don’t Have to Live with Approval Addiction”

“God will never help us be anyone but ourselves.” pg 62 Chapter 10 “You Don’t Have to Live with Approval Addiction”

“Once you develop a pattern of pleasing people, you will need to take a genuine step of faith to break that cycle. Give people their freedom, but stand up for your right to be free as well.” pg 68 Chapter 11 “Establish Good Boundaries”

“Righteousness, or doing right, is a fruit that brings peace to our lives. Nothing feels better than simply knowing we did what was right.” pg 73 Chapter 12 “Don’t Let Your Feelings Stop You”

“When confronted by pain, we have three choices: 1) press past the pain now, 2) press past the pain later, or 3) keep the pain forever.” pg 73 Chapter 12 “Don’t Let Your Feelings Stop You”

“We must press past our lack of desire to do things we don’t enjoy. In the same way, we must also press past the emotional pain of abuse, rejection, disapproval, betrayal, judgment, guilt, shame, anger, unforgiveness, and criticism in order to be set free from them.” pg 74 Chapter 12 “Don’t Let Your Feelings Stop You”

“Don’t allow your past to ruin your future. God shows us in His word how we can be free, but we still have to make choices that may not always be easy or even seem fair. Doing so can be difficult, but once you do what you need to do, you will find blessing and reward.” pg 74 Chapter 12 “Don’t Let Your Feelings Stop You”

“Doing right when our feelings don’t support those actions builds strong character.” pg 74 Chapter 12 “Don’t Let Your Feelings Stop You”

“God’s Word has inherent power in it. When we release our faith in His Word, that power is released into our lives and circumstances to help us. I want to encourage you to replace one addiction with another addiction: I want you to become addicted to Jesus and to the Word of God! They are what you need more than anything else.” pg 79 Chapter 13 “Press Past the Pain of Disapproval”

“There are times when we must do things even when afraid. In other words, we must do what we know we should do even though we fear. When God says in His word, “Fear Not,” He means for us to keep going forward, taking steps of obedience to carry out His instructions. He is in essence saying, “This is not going to be easy, but don’t run away from it.” pg 81 Chapter 13 “Press Past the Pain of Disapproval”

“…the good news is that you are going through – and that means you will ultimately come out the other side with a victory that cannot be taken away from you.” pg 83 Chapter 13 “Press Past the Pain of Disapproval”

“People pleasers may think asking for help will make others feel obligated to them. Although they do most of what they do out of a sense of obligation, they don’t want others to feel obligated to them. Most people pleasers have such a poor self-image that they believe people would not want to do anything for them anyway. They don’t value themselves, so they think no one else values them, either.” pg 93 Chapter 15 “What Do You Need”

“God has given you authority first and foremost over your own life. If you don’t except and exercise that authority, you may spend your life blaming others for things you should do something about. Make your own decisions according to what you believe is God’s will for you; don’t let others make your decisions for you. On Judgment Day, God will not ask anyone else to give an account of your life; He will only ask you (see Romans 14:12).” pg 101 Chapter 16 “Take Authority Over Your Life”

“God has placed certain people in each of our lives to help us. If we do not receive their help, we become frustrated and overworked, and the feel unfulfilled because they are not using their gifts… You cannot be all things to all people all the time. You have legitimate needs. It is not wrong to need help and ask for it. However, needing help and being to proud to ask for it is wrong.” pg 101 Chapter 16 “Take Authority Over Your Life”

“God is a God of purpose. We may not always understand His Purpose, but we can be sure He definitely has one. Something may initially look terrible to us, and yet all the while God intends to show His glory by working something good from it.” pg 128 Chapter “Put Your Pain to Good Use”
– I don’t think God is the author of pain caused by others or ourself, but He certainly uses it to help build faith, character & strength. – Brother Sasquatch

“God has a purpose for you, too. No matter what you have been through, he is healing you and making you ready to help others.” pg 129 “Put Your Pain to Good Use”


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